When it comes to our painful reality, “When Good People Have Affairs,” reconciliation should be the only option.  To opt for a divorce and remarriage only adds to the violations and pain of all the victims. It also invalidates the need for sorrow, forgiveness, change, responsibility and love towards each other and our children.
If truth be told, unless one was forced to marry, divorce is not necessary. In cases of extreme physical danger or mental cruelty, a legal separation can ensure the same legal protection as a divorce. In addition to preserving the bond of marriage, a separation comes with many extra bonuses for individuals, families and society.  While offering needed protection for the violated spouse or children, a separation should also offer an incentive to the dysfunctional or adulterous spouse to seek religious or psychological help. This is already being done within every other type of abuse in our society, except where it counts the most—in Family Courts.Â
No religious or secular expert can deny that the only reasons for our society’s family Crisis are the unconstitutional nature of no-fault divorce laws and social trends within media, psychiatry, religion, legislature and society.  If religious and secular experts would reform their laws to be in harmony with God’s laws or basic laws of nature, most of our problems would begin to diminish. Needless to say, ANY violation within the bond of each family has life-altering damages. Consequently, after years of being brainwashed into mental and physical adultery, even a legal separation will put everyone at risk and must never be chosen as a good or permanent solution.  Â
Unfortunately, within our current system, adulterous addictions and relationships cannot end. When victimized spouses and children receive no protection and adulterous spouses receive no help for their habits and addictions, ALL suffer. Instead of receiving needed help, adulterous spouses are empowered and made sicker by their adulterous partners and  no-fault laws or experts. By now, most women and men find it almost normal to seduce married men or women away from their families. Even though marital infidelity or family betrayal is the 3rd gravest atrocity after murder and physical abuse, most of us will disagree with such truth until we experience it personally. To enhance our dilemma, too many spouses will no longer feel or object to betrayal and remarriage because they embraced or were forced into these cycles years ago.
Will more books, education and preparation help marriages and families to regain stability? Yes, but compared to all the other violations, education is currently the least effective solution. To focus on education of singles but to ignore a legion of existing victims and their need for help or justice is to add insult to injury and enslave our entire society into dysfunction—because No-fault shared custody deprived violated parents of their moral parental authority, it feeds the divorce cycles by creating dysfunctional lifestyles that no amount of education can rectify.Â
The solution is obvious–just like the Holy Trinity is all inclusive, so is the indissoluble bond between each man, woman and child. Oddly, so are the basic roots of our solution—secular & religious education along with reform of No-fault divorce laws and social media trends.  By now, confusion & adultration are so deeply ingrained in our society that education, law & social reforms must be initiated simultaneously. Needless to say, private individuals do not have enough clout or money to resolve a PUBLIC Crisis—as such, the resolution of our Crisis is where it was from the beginning—in the hands of religious and secular experts or luminaries. Oddly, most conservative and modern “experts” are so busy fighting each other, CURRENTLY THERE IS NO ONE FIGHTING FOR OUR CHILDREN because parents who do so are overruled by ALL experts—conservative & modern! … While our Crisis is enormous, even ONE PRO or CLERGYMAN can begin REAL CHANGE … As such, this forum is open to any experts or luminaries wishing to offer moral support and leadership to all the victims—young and old! Sam Beamer … “Let your love of justice be exceeded only by your love of mercy.” Â
